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Certainly not Emily Post...or a Martha Stewart....

When we were first married, I spent my days working and figuring out married life.  We were invited to the big family fourth of July celebration.  I was assigned with bringing potato salad.  I thought, cool, no one can mess up, potato salad.  We drove to York, Pennsylvania and spent the night at my husbands Great Aunts house.  I didn't have a glass dish for the potato salad, but I did bring all the ingredients to prepare once we got to the house. I still needed a bowl, and his aunt just sent me to the attic to pick from the many collecting dust on the shelf.  She said, she just moved all her china up to attic, because she no longer entertains...I love going up into attics of old houses.  She had lived in this house since 1907 and it was the house she was born in, so there was much history.  I finished my potato salad and put in fridge to chill until I could find a serving bowl in the attic.  Potato salad must be chilled, and so I left it in the fridge while I went bowl hunting.  I wandered up the stairs, and it was a treasure trove up there, magazines from the 1930s, Victory Magazine from the world war...and it was so cool.  I found a shelf of beautiful bowls, and one caught my eye.  It was way up and behind, a box but that was the one, I grabbed the step ladder and moved the box to retrieve my bowl.  It was white porcelain with inlaid gold design all through the body, solid gold or seemed so handles, and a beautiful lid. The bowl was so dusty and yellowed with age.  I made a baking soda and peroxide mix to clean the inside, scrubbed the old yellow age discoloration on the inside.  It was just beautiful.  I took my potato salad out and scooped into the bowl.  We were off to the big picnic.  This was to be my first time meeting most of the extended family.  I was nervous but equally thrilled with this beautiful treasure I found for my potato salad.  We arrived, and I carried my potato salad into the pavilion and since we were newly married, everyone stopped and looked as we entered.  I held out my potato salad to my mother in law, and she said, "Oh, dear"....Oh..dear??? huh?? She asked where it was I found this pot...I said in the attic....isn't it beautiful...but soon...laughter roared through the pavilion...and my husbands aunt came over and put her hand on my shoulder, and said, "Dear one, thats a chamber pot"....oh...know...oh..my word...I can tell you, no one ate my potato salad, and 18 years later, I have yet been asked to prepare a dish for a family gathering...

All spiders are arachnids...but all arachnids are not spiders..

We all remember in math class when the dreaded math statements were introduced....true or false... All spiders are arachnids, therefore all arachnids are spiders.  I initially said, oh, yep, so true as my son was pressing through his homework.  He looks up and says, false, and I naturally look up from my Amazon Kindle and ask why is it false?  He then, follows with the question, is a scorpion a spider?  No, of course not, I reply and he says its an arachnid.  I sit corrected.  My mind was wrapped up with all these little facts.  Today, my boys started their insect collection for science class.  Oh, stunning, or finding an insect on the ground to pin it to a piece of styrofoam, gives me the heebie jeevies.  The boys have collected several specimens already and love that mom is staying an arms length away from their discoveries.  What happened to leaf collections or maybe a model of the solar system, but bugs....oooo....yuck...blech...I so do not do insects. 

There are bugs in jars, I don't recognize....and they are flipping through books, and online looking for the names.  They couldn't push a pin through the stink bug...so I gorilla glued it to the styrofoam...there's no way, I am sticking anything through that body....what if it has a stink sac?  I don't know....I don't want to smell like a stink bomb...though my kids would find it quite amusing.




The day the dog took flight....

It was a really blustery day just before Christmas.  The girls were hanging the garland on the picket fence, and I was inside baking the gingerbread.   Whisper and Spring, our two Pomeranians, suddenly appeared at my feet doing what we call the potty dance.  I placed the spatula down in the bowl and grabbed my jacket and scarf and took them outside.  The winds were at the time 25 to 35 mph and I had not realized the wind was quite so strong.  Imagine a flying squirrel, as it's body just sort of flattens as the wind lifts it from a branch, well, that was a bit how it was for poor whisper.  She hit an ice patch and slid down the driveway, an suddenly her legs sprawled the wind came and up she went.  I would say she defied gravity, but then she weighs maybe 4 pounds soaking wet.  Her little eyes widened, she squealed and barked, as I ran or rather slid to her rescue.  She didn't fly to high only maybe a foot or two, but was enough to scare her.  I pulled her close to me, and she was shaking so hard, she was traumatized. Springer-dinger as we affectionately called her, stood by the garage, and waited to return to the safety of our home.  Whisper did not go out the rest of the day, she only would go to the garage and use a piddle pad. 

Books..tuition...more books...where does it end..???

It was registration time for second semester.  My daughter was now registering for her second semester at college, and I was left in the lobby with my checkbook.  As, she emerged with her schedule, I just sat nervously, wondering how much this was gonna cost us.  Although, the HOPE scholarship pays for a good bit of her classes, the fees, books, and, some electives were not covered by the scholarship.  We departed the university and headed home.  We were searching for books online at Amazon, and rental sites.  Where the snag comes in, she has two classes with homework on a mathlab, and her cell biology and genetics class required a code that cost 100.00 each.  Are you kidding me???  We overnight these, and all that arrived was a piece of cardboard with a 12 to 15 digit access code.  Shipping and handling for a piece of cardboard, in a world of electronic technology, I pay shipping for a number?  We are now at the point of selecting her four year college.  She will have completed to years of undergraduate work while simultaneously finishing her last two years of high school.  My daughter asks me, "what should I do with my life? " I can only say, do what makes you happy, what brings her joy.  She loves the human anatomy, she can tell you the strangest facts about the body.  She has a library of human anatomy books, right beside the Teen Vogue and Seventeen Magazines.  She struggles with math, but loves science. I remind myself, she is just sixteen, and not eighteen, and she will change her mind five or six more times.   How do we survive in a single income family and next fall we will have two in college, and the following fall three in college? 

There are 2 speeds fast and faster...life never stops...

I find myself these days running from pillar to post.  Having five kids all stair stepped apart and all very different, I find myself sitting in my chair tearfully watching as they spread their wings.  as a mom, I just relish in their own personal gains and they are making their own imprints in the world.  I have always been a bit of an artsy fartsy, fly by the seat of my pants kinda gal, but since the teen years have hit, my best friend has become the calendar.  I have my life scheduled, so much that I realize I have not a second for myself, and no time for relationships.  I used to struggle with the word no, now its become a regular word in my vocabulary, so either I am growing ornery in my forty's or just tired of always putting out.  This last week was one of non stop chaos....and to open a window to my life...you just can't make this stuff up...by the way...

The week began as usual dad flies to NYC, and girls start off to school on Monday, and the boys and I start our homeschool day.  We headed to the library in town so they could work on their research papers.  Yes, "Virginia, there is a Santa Clause", my boys were gonna learn how to find reference material in a library.  It's been a few years since I did library research....heavens its been twenty years since I graduated college...so one can only imagine.  I have been to the libray but merely to pick up a new book to read.  I taught the boys how to use a card catalog before leaving home.  I walked all over the library looking for the chest of drawers that held those cards...and the young girl, early 20's asked if she could help me, I replied.."where's the card catalog?" , she said, I will ask..??  Now my inner thought was you work in a library and you do not know where the card catalog is?? The librarian came over and said, she could help me on the computer, that defeated my purpose.  I can use a computer, not a complete moron...meanwhile, the boys are loving this, because I said, they could not use computers to research...guess what the boys were doing, clicking away at the computer.  We were successful and headed home with a stack of reference books. 

I had my week down, Monday, Wed, and Thursday from 5 to 9 pm, I was gonna be at swim practice with boys. Practice is 6 to 7:30.  I would drop boys off, continue on to Emory drop the girls off, return to pick up boys and swing back and pick up the girls.  On Tuesday nights, our youngest son has basketball games.  We jump in our Ford Expedition and drive 30 minutes to the gym and spend an hour or so watching a game, I do not understand. I get things done, amazingly...except my curve ball this weekend...my oldest is away at school and she was txting me about studying for finals.  I texted back that I would be coming down next weekend to help her pack up her dorm room, and bring her car home so that after her last final she just will have a suitcase.  She sent me a txt back ??? huh???, I repeated myself, and she says, mom, I am done Thursday...like in 3 days Thursday...I had plans yesterday, and they didn't include driving for 6 hours to gather pack and come home...all the promises I made were all broken.  I scrambled to reshuffle my life on Sunday, and I candidly said aloud, 'There are just not enough hours in the day', and my 13 year old says 'mom, there are plenty of hours, it just matters how you use them...' ugh...i rolled my eyes..she is right though...I hated to admit it..

I suppose life will continue to move fast...and faster...but learning to find my way...in a new time in my life...write again soon...

Oy...too old for push ups...bras or otherwise...

I in my infinite wisdom decided to hire myself a fitness trainer.  Life after 40 certainly is not forgiving when it comes to our bodies.  I laughed when I heard my father say once "that he knew he was over the hill because his chest fell into his drawers." I also heard a quote from a wise woman who said "that she may be over the hill but its better to be over it than under it".   I joined a gym, and have started 'boot camp', I can honestly say, I am finding myself doing things, I never thought possible.  I managed to do 2 sets of 20 push ups, sit ups, assisted pull ups, you name it I was doing it.  I was sweating like a faucet and there was no perspiration just good ol sweat.  I am on the floor worshiping the mat, as I look up and see all these buff men, and i am huffing and puffing.  Why is it there are mirrors at every turn.  I was introduced the to the weight machines.  The last time I used a weight machine I was in college and that was twenty years ago.  Where in the world are the pins and pully's???  These machines look like torcher devices.  I now understood, why senior citizens are so afraid of technology.  I survived, but honestly I am so sore.  I am still wearing a softcast brace on my ankle and so I have not been able to run.  I started to walk on the treadmill at about 4.5 for about ten minutes.  I was not told that if I hit stop I would go reeling backwards because my body was not prepared to stop.  I am smart, but I was dumb in that moment.  I sat on the floor aside the treadmill as the trainer came running to my aid.  I stood up and limped to the bench where I sat, sweating profusely, and my hair was a wreck, I looked awful.  Where is sexy now??? I just sat on that bench looking in the mirror, and asked myself, why I am paying for this?  I realize that I am taking time for me. 

I love to write, travel and laugh.  I am learning today that I am becoming a woman again.  I will always be my role, a wife, mother, friend, and survivor.  I learned today, I am not defined by my roles.  So, as I feel like two ton tessie without a clue in that gym, I am learning.  I'm redefining my life as I have known it. 

In the coming weeks I will be returning to Walt Disney World, and I will be bringing two of my dearest friends.  We met as we were receiving our chemo/radiation treatments at Piedmont Hospital and they will see Disney World for the very first time.  They are 72 and 65 and though they are old enough to be my mothers, we are bonded together in love and have conquered and overcome many obstacles. 
My role as a Walt Disney World Mom's panelist along with my many trips to the parks, will allow me to navigate with them with a great deal of ease.  I will probably write about our Golden Girl adventures. 

Learning to ride a bike...

I began the day teaching my boys about the mechanics of riding a bike.  This may sound boring, however, everything to my son is a math problem.  I thought if I could teach him the physics and mechanics involved with riding a bike, perhaps he would finally be able to balance and learn.  We set out this morning with his brand new Mongoose bicycle and his brother jumped on his bike and pedaled down the street.  My son is 12 and the only boy on the block not riding a bicycle.  We tried and tried but to no avail.  I have the scratches and bruises from the bicycle.  We were unsuccessful.  My goal is to teach him, so that we can ride bikes on the beach in Hilton Head, SC.  It would be a dream if he could ride his own bike instead of having to use a tandem bike. 

I have gone to doctor, to doctor, psychologist, to a psychiatrist but they all tell me, he is a genius, and has aspergerlike symptoms, but also had dexterity issues.  The school put him in a gifted program, and then just punished him because he couldn't get information from his head to paper.  It took him such a long time to complete a task.  He is the most amazing puzzle solver, avid reader, and created a an AM radio yesterday. He can't ride a bike, its as if he has two left feet.  I started him on a homeschool swim team, hoping that just maybe the strokes will help the mind body connection.  I know in my heart, he is missing that component, its either all mind or all body.  He is doing really well, in fact, he is learning.  Homeschool has been challenging, but at the same time, I am seeing my child smile again. 

 

The fantasy of marriage

There is a fantasy that I had growing up.  I would find my prince charming, have the 2.5 kids, and the house in the burbs.  I would have the most amazing marriage and our life would be perfect.  The world at large, television, movies, all have these amazing families and marriages.  As, I began almost 18 years ago, I had a magical thought of what marriage would be and to be honest, I wouldn't give anyone a plumb nickel for the first five years.  My oldest daughter came to me and needed to do a presentation for her class about the American Family.  She was looking for articles and experiential knowledge about what the typical american marriage.  I stood before her speechless, what was I to say?  The american family is no longer just husband and a wife, it goes beyond just a partnership.  I believe love is the bond that will break any and all barriers.  If one has love, than they have strength and with strength comes power.  I took her to see the movie The Kids are Alright, Annette Bening and Julianne Moore.  I turned to my daughter and said, that is what a marriage is really about.  It wasn't the physical marriage I was referring too, defining marriage is each individuals responsibility to find and create their own belief systems.  I sat in the theater and witnessed the strain, the emotional arguments, it was real.  I was impressed there was movie that actually showed a real depiction of how marriage works.  Marriage is about love, its about coming together and committing to one another in the presence of God, family, and friends.  Marriage is work.  Marriage is about compromise, and learning that what you might have loved once, has become a annoyance. 

We stopped by Starbuck's on our way home and as we sat quietly sipping our coffee, she looks up and says, "I am so glad, you and dad kept going."  I said, me too.  I asked her what she was going to present to her Oral Communications class and she replied, "the fantasy of marriage".  She said, momma, no one fights for marriage anymore. She says, it seemed to her that when the going gets tough the marriage is dissolved.  She is correct, but that statement is far deeper than a marriage.  Our society has begun to raise up a generation of entitlements.  Our young children and adults want the big houses, the nice cars, but don't want to work for them. I watch as people half my age live in a world that far exceeds the Jones's.  My daughter and I left the Starbucks and headed home.  Our family has overcome many obstacles.  We have lost everything, but we still had each other. 

State of our medical system...

It's been 150 days since my last post and for the most part it has been my life has been a bit crazy.  I spend every summer in New Mexico.  I take my kids to camp and also am the camp mom.  My duties range from doing all the laundry, giving hugs, walking campers from place to place.  I answer the phones and manage frantic parents whom have left their little ones at camp for the first time.  I get my weekends to go into Santa Fe and visit the galleries, stop and have a massage or two and its a fabulous time.  This year, I was standing on the porch and was correcting some boy campers when my foot slipped and down I fell into a huge mud puddle.  My foot twisted upwards and a popping and grinding sound, I was sure it was broken.  I had never broken a bone in my life which exceeds 40 years by the way.  I remember starting to shake and my body was moving quickly into shock.  I was quickly scooped up and taken to the hospital, which I shall not name, but only because I am still upset with them.  The hospital x-rayed my foot and I was told ice the foot for swelling, no breaks, and its a mild strain.  Start bearing weight on the ankle in two days.  I am a social person, I love to travel, I love to be out adventuring, so to be down for any amount of time was not acceptable.  I went back to the camp and iced my foot the whole next day, I laid in bed listening to the bustle outside my window.  That night, I was determined to walk, and I did.  I cried, bit down hard, and breathed my way through the night.  I am very thankful no for all those breathing exercises we mom's used during childbirth.  I meditated and prayed God would just take this pain away.  I am good at getting through a crisis and personal pain afterall I have survived cancer, brain surgery and have learned to walk afterwards.  This was 'just' a strain and to be honest, if it were my kids and the doctor said not to 'baby' the injury, I would be all over them to get up and going.  I believe in the 'do as you say principles' and do it.  This pain was unbelievable.  I was successful by morning my foot was purple but the pain was gone.  I elevated and iced each night and limped my way through the remainder of the 2 weeks.  I drove 2000 miles home and called an orthopedist to see if they could help with my mobility issues.  I learned that day after an x-ray and MRI I had 3 non displaced fractures, ruptured 2 ligaments and the third was questionable but most likely ruptured, the nerves were severed which accounts for the lack of pain, and significant severe bone marrow edema.  He said, it was considered a third degree sprain, and that a surgery within 48 hours would have been the directive however it has been 4 weeks and the damage had already began to heal.  It gets even better.  I was in a boot but the edema was not improving and the fear was the bone was dying.  A dying bone means amputation of the foot.  I almost fell off the table in my mind I am thinking 'are you kidding me??? I fell off a porch, not a war injury, or farming accident...lose my foot'? I realized i had to get off my foot for every hour I am up I would go down 2 hours.  The doctors were going to drill my bone if the swelling did not begin to decrease.  It has finally and no drilling but really scary stuff.  I am in a half aircast instead of the boot now.  I am thankful but have got to listen to my body.  I am way to good at rationalizing my own pain and downgrading my own needs.  I don't want to be stopped life is so short, and I don't want to be on the sidelines of life. 

When College becomes home

When college becomes home....

I sat in orientation with an auditorium full of parents watching a parade of staff and administrators barrage us with information.  I sat listening hearing about how to help our children transition and to understand that once our children leave home they never really come back.  I thought and believed I was ready for my little girl and in theory that was true.  She came home the first weekend to pick up the remainder of her stuff and she was excited to get back to her new abode.  I thought to myself, I got this, she's okay, I'm okay....no problem.  Last weekend I drove down to pick her up for the three day weekend and my Expedition was in the shop for an a/c issue so I had a rental car.  I forgot the GPS and asked if she would get hers from her car.  There are faster ways home but without my trusty GPS I dare not deviate from the known route.  She happily brought her GPS to the car and plugged it in, I pressed the home button and to my surprise the address was not our home but her college address.  I felt my face getting hot and the tears well up in my eyes somehow seeing it on a screen had a much more powerful affect on me.  I couldn't help teasing her relentlessly all the way home.

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